Today, I wake up every morning knowing who I am and what I’m meant to do, and striving to live that purposeful life,
But this wasn’t always true.
In fact, I have lived most of my life unconsciously, without an awareness or understanding of who I was—my deepest values, my natural gifts, or my reason for being. I just went through the motions of life, making decisions based on feelings—mostly fear. Fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of embarrassment, fear of rejection, fear of being alone.
At no point in my young adulthood did I seek to understand myself and to assess what I really wanted in my life. I had no self-concept; I was guided by people-pleasing and perceived expectations of what I “should” do.
I paid a heavy price for that lack of awareness. I struggled with low self-esteem, eating disorders, anxiety, perfectionism, and impostor syndrome. I married young (afraid of being alone), and painfully divorced two years later. It wasn’t until I had my daughters that I felt a real sense of purpose for the first time, but time flew and soon enough they’d left home. Nearing age 50, I found myself, once again, totally unmoored.
The truth is, I was tired. Tired of living in fear, tired of never being good enough, tired of feeling like a failure, tired of putting everyone else first.
Something had to change.
It took several years of hard, honest work—therapy, exploration, trial and error, hard conversations—for me to find myself for the first time in my life. I had to face some tough questions and come to terms with my past in order to embrace a new, more hopeful future. In the process, I learned who I am—my values, passions, and gifts. I finally realized the toxic impact of my perfectionism, and the power of vulnerability, and vowed to accept myself, flaws and all. I learned who my girlfriends are, and who is better left behind. I discovered the power of action in the face of fear, of taking risks, of getting outside my comfort zone. I found my courage. Today, I continue to learn and grow. I am a work in progress, learning to be perfectly imperfect.
It’s on this journey of self-discovery that I discovered my purpose—and its power.
“My personal mission is to challenge, empower, and inspire
people to purposeful and transformative action.”
This is who I am and why I’m here. Looking at times in my life when I’ve felt most energized, this makes total sense: I have been a helper, a caregiver, a teacher, an organizer as long as I can remember. As a parent, and in my volunteer work as a mentor to Chicago inner-city youths, I have loved challenging and inspiring young people. And in the last two decades, I’ve been a dedicated student of psychology and human behavior, which led me to become a Certified Life Coach—combining my talents and my passions into one amazing life calling.
Knowing my purpose has brought me a real sense of peace, while galvanizing me to action. It has transformed my life. I wake up every morning feeling excited to contribute my gifts to the world, to make the difference I know I was born to make.
Because I believe that each and every one of us, no matter age or circumstances, has something uniquely wonderful to contribute.
I want to help you get unstuck—find your own special gifts and unleash them into the world. So you can experience for yourself the joy and fulfillment that come from living on purpose.
My name, Hélène, is French for Helene (I’m an American raised in Paris)
To pronounce it, you say the two letters L and N in a row: L-N, with the emphasis on the N.