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Is Your World Out of Control?

I am a planner. I like to predict and anticipate every eventuality.

I hate surprises. And I’m not just talking about negative events. I’m turning 60 in January and I’ve made it clear to my husband: no surprise (or any other kind of) party!

When the world seems to be spinning out of control, or my own life seems overwhelming, I seek solace in areas where I can effect positive change.

Like what?

I’ve taken to carrying $20 bills I hand to immigrants who are now living on the cold streets of Chicago, mostly refugee families from Venezuela. I’m fielding calls on the NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) helpline for a 4-hour shift weekly. I’ve decided to give blood on a regular basis, starting next week, to aid the current national shortage.

Granted, these are small gestures, but they help me embrace my agency in what appears to be a more and more unpredictable and fearful world. This helps alleviate a bit of my growing anxiety.

YOUR TURN: What do you do in times of stress and anxiety? How do you manage? Let us know in the comments!

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  1. Amy Levine

    Yes- agree- we have control over our own interactions with others in the simplest ways. We can help to create a kinder community. Pay it forward. When someone let’s me into a line ahead of them because I have fewer groceries.. I do it for someone else. I smile at someone coming towards me and I say hello. The smallest exchange can be uplifting, changing our perspective- a reminder that we are all in this together.

  2. Hélène

    That is beautifully said Amy! Small acts of kindness can yield a big impact. Thanks so much for commenting and sharing what you do.


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