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It Was Harder Than I Thought

Published on 11/16/2020

My husband and I have begun splitting our time between Chicago and Sarasota. After 30 years of Midwestern winters and a now (somewhat) empty nest, we bought a little bungalow near the beach in Lido Key and flew down earlier this year, in February. The plan was to be there for 6 to 8 weeks but, with the onset of Covid, we didn’t end up driving back until after Memorial Day.

As I write this it’s late October and, after a beautiful summer in Chicago, we’re on our first pandemic-era flight, the daily United nonstop to Sarasota. I’ve spent the past few weeks preparing for this, although this time we’re planning on being away for 7 months. To be honest, I’ve been feeling a bit melancholy—even shed a few tears on the drive to the airport.

I don’t think I realized how hard change is for me. I’m a homebody and a creature of habit. I don’t need or want a lot of excitement in my day-to-day life. I do work I love and I am surrounded by the people I love. There is power in place too. And I guess I underestimated how much the beautiful city of Chicago and the home we’ve made there are part of my everyday happiness.

Of course, I know that I will adapt to our life in Sarasota and create a routine there too, as I did before—work under the palm trees, walks on the beach, dinners on the patio. We are blessed to have this little slice of paradise in a friendly neighborhood.

Still, change is hard. I’m sitting with this new awareness. Feeling into it. Not berating or shaming myself for my “first-world” concerns. Simply accepting it.

YOUR TURN: How do you handle changes, big or small? What can you do to accept rather than minimize your feelings around difficult changes?
 

HeleneTStelian Musing
I’m Hélène Stelian, the Midlife Mentor with a passion for facilitating personal development in women 40+. Through my THRIVE community, I help introspective, curious, action-oriented women 40+ deepen their journeys of self-discovery and growth—and create their next chapter with courage and intention.

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