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I’m Hélène Stelian, the Midlife Mentor with a passion for facilitating personal development in women 40+. Through my THRIVE Courses, I help introspective, curious, action-oriented women 40+ deepen their journeys of self-discovery and growth—and create their next chapter with courage and intention.

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Am I a Pushover?

Am I a Pushover?

When the "storm of the century" was due to hit Chicago right before Christmas, coinciding with our flights out to visit my parents in Santa Barbara, my husband and I decided to move our travel plans...

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I Felt a Little Smug

I Felt a Little Smug

For nearly 3 years, I avoided it. I'd find out after-the-fact that I'd been exposed and still, no sign of it. Like last Christmas, when over a dozen of us gathered for the holidays and many ended up...

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Remembering Jim

Remembering Jim

Two weeks ago, I woke up to a text from my friend Karen—well, really her eldest son Alec who had taken over her cell phone at her request. He wanted to let me know that his dad, Jim, had suffered a...

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My Girlfriend Ghosted Me

My Girlfriend Ghosted Me

In midlife, many of us are rethinking our female friendships. This significant life transition—potentially involving new priorities, a geographic move, a change in work or marital or family status,...

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Can We Just Cancel the Holidays?

Can We Just Cancel the Holidays?

I attended a virtual support group recently entitled "Getting Through the Holidays Together!" — I signed up because that's exactly how I feel. I have to "get through" them. In the meeting, I shared...

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I Wish I’d Said Something…

I Wish I’d Said Something…

For most of my life, I have relied on my brain for judgment and decision making. The problem is, there's a lot of noise in my head, and it's not always pleasant. Like my shitty inner critic telling...

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Wow, That’s Genius!

Wow, That’s Genius!

I have just spent one short but glorious week in Copenhagen and Paris with my husband. Both cities hold special places in my heart. Copenhagen because I was born there of a Danish mother and spent...

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My favorite website for clothing finds!

My favorite website for clothing finds!

In my teens and twenties, I used to love spending a leisurely afternoon at the mall. I would go from store to store, browsing the latest fashions, trying on clothing, and purchasing a selection of...

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Road Rage

Road Rage

My husband gets annoyed at cars driving slowly in front of us. Sometimes I do too. But I remind him (and myself): What if this was your elderly mother in that car, unsure of where she's going? Or...

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